Jai Guru Deva Om: Exploring Transcendental Meditation

My mother is a big, big Beatles fan. One morning, out of curiosity, I asked her what her favourite Beatles album is, and her response was quick: “The White Album—hands down.”

After endless repeats in full blast on our beat-up stereo of “The White Album” every Sunday mornings, I found myself singing to songs I’ve memorised by heart, and me being a music geek, I decided to check out the story behind “The White Album”. Further Googling and Wiki-ing led me to the information that The Beatles wrote the album while practising transcendental meditation under the renowned Maharishi Mahesh Yogi. So the greatest album of The Beatles was written while being on a spiritual journey through meditation? Sounds interesting.

Relaxed Awareness: What is Transcendental Meditation?

Thus began my quest on learning more about transcendental meditation. Transcendental meditation taps into the mind’s ability to avoid distracting thoughts to promote a state of “relaxed awareness”. Similar to the NeuroActivator program, it allows the mind, breath, and body to come into one—resulting into a state of pure consciousness, stability, as well as a still and calm mind.

Mediators who practise transcendental meditation are more inclined to become less agitated, think clearly, and become more at peace with their surroundings.  Transcendental meditation allows its practitioners to achieve a state of relaxation much deeper than sleep.  It brings altogether a different experience, so to speak—as the mind and body become one.

Meditating to achieve the state of transcendence.

Meditating to achieve the state of transcendence.

Experiencing Transcendence

It is a well-known fact that transcendental meditation’s popularity notably increased after The Beatles released “The White Album”, and as a result, more and more schools began to teach the technique to thousands of practitioners. There are a lot to learn as well as to experience; however, experiencing transcendence can be done in the comforts of your own home by using basic techniques.

Begin transcendental meditation by sitting in a comfortable position, with your eyes closed. Then, the quest for total relaxation begins. Breathe in, and breathe out. As thoughts begin to enter your mind, view it as a simple truth—no expectations, no judgments. This will allow your mind to achieve full awareness. The absence of thoughts may sometimes occur—and if this happens, simply be aware of the stillness of your body. Reciting a mantra then follows. Begin by reciting the word “Om”(a word that symbolises birth, life, and death) repeatedly, making sure that you pronounce it in a very long and drawn out manner. For about 10 to 15 minutes, your body and mind will reach a meditative state.

When you are ready, end the meditation process by rubbing your hands and massaging your face, before finally bringing your hands back to your knees and gently opening your eyes.

If you want to learn more transcendental meditation techniques, let this article show you more.

What’s next?

The mind can be easily distracted by outside forces which can alter focus and concentration, thus leading to stress, anxiety, and worry. However, transcendental meditation can help alleviate the mind and body’s overall state by flushing out thoughts and by focusing on awareness and relaxation.

“Across the Universe”, a song written by John Lennon, features a mantra that goes, “jai guru deva om”. It was Lennon’s way of paying homage to the late Maharishi Mahesh Yogi. I can only imagine what went on while The Beatles was practising transcendental meditation, but if it resulted to one of the greatest albums of all time in rock history, then surely it must be an experience beyond anything ordinary—an experience, to which I can say, is nothing but transcendent.

I hope you had fun reading as much as I did while writing this and listening to “The White Album”.

Brainychickk’s Art of War: Handling Conflicts

Fights – ahh they are but the salt and pepper of a relationship. That’s what my folks always say. But sometimes, we get to a point when we have salt, pepper, cayenne, bird chilies, ginger, lemongrass, cardamom, sesame and star anise and a lot of other seasonings altogether in one dish. Too much of that in one place can be overwhelming, maybe even sickening.

So you think you’re the master of relationships? If you want to know whether or not you are, then read this awesome article.

But how do you deal with your conflicts and little fights in your relationship? How do you make sure that your relationship will be able to stand strong and firm amidst whatever disagreements you have? How do you – the  man – get your message across to your girl without getting into relationship-debilitating fights?

Fights are the salt-and-pepper of relationships. But what if they become a "cajun mix"?

Fights are the salt-and-pepper of relationships. But what if they become a “cajun mix”?

Call me old school and traditional but I firmly believe that how a man handles the conflict influences the outcome of it. Trust me on this one: when a girl truly wants to be with you – she does not easily give up no matter how many times she says she will.  Oh, and how you react, too, will affect her every action towards the conflict and towards you. It’s not enough that you know your women like you.  You have to exert effort to try to straighten things out.

From a woman’s perspective, here are some tips on how you could resolve a fight.

  1. Do not yell. I know this isn’t quite fair but really, when she nags, don’t nag back. The more you raise your voice, the more she raises hers. And when that happens, her own frustration rises and she’ll be less logical.
  2. Do not totally shut up. The most frustrating part for women is when you suck it all in and make us guess what’s on your mind. Please, you know we over think. Don’t make us over think even further.
  3. Do not walk away without a word. Sure it is dramatic and Oscars worthy, but walking out is going to make things even worse. When you want to leave, tell her so in the calmest way possible.
  4. Do not try to solve things with a bottle of beer. Relationship conflicts could be healthy or unhealthy, depending on how you react to them. And alcohol never solves anything, ergo, unhealthy. In any case, it will only confuse your brain even further. It does not help you think and makes you do and say stupid things.

    thinking alone

    Thinking things alone helps you make better decisions after a fight.

  5. Take time to think things through – alone. In the absence of anything that could distract you, give yourself (and your girl) time to really understand the situation. One, it will calm you down. Two, the absence of her nagging voice will make you think better. Yes, yes it will.
  6. Talk about the problem calmly. When you are able to achieve that Zen-master level of calmness that is the goal of number 5, and so has your loveydovey, sit down and talk about it. Calmly, openly, and devoid of any form of drama. Talk with each other using your brains – be logical, be mature, don’t be too emotional. Take turns talking – give each other a chance to speak up.
  7. Don’t take the fight to the next day. Ideally, fights should be over and done before going to bed.
  8. Be ready with a makeup treat. Sex is one option, but a surprise make up dinner date could be your best option too! When you’ve thought about things well enough and you’re calm, you can always look forward to being at peace again when you have something special planned for it too.

Resolving conflicts is especially crucial if you’re married already. This is a good read about marital conflicts and how to resolve them.

Nope, I am not saying do it all for your ladylove. I’m sure there are things that you would want us to know when it comes to handling fights. I would love to hear from you men about it. Email me!

Brainychickk’s 5 Things You Didn’t Know Women Liked in Men

Hey everyone! Surprised at my new post’s title? Well, it’s just that I’ve been getting emails about my friend Robb’s blog post about dating and love, asking for more of the same topic. Can’t believe it was such a hit! So, here you go guys and gals. Since Robb’s was from a man’s point of view, I am going to write something from the point of view of the women.

So you thought you knew everything about us women. You knew what ticks us off, our pet peeves, and turn ons. Or so you thought. Women are a philosophy on its own; and in the words of a popular philosopher, “I know one thing: that I know nothing” is the attitude that every man should take when it comes to the female kind.

There’s always something about women that will surprise you and you can hardly guess what they are. Men and music, men with abs, men and cooking, the list goes on. There’s so much you don’t know that women like in men and knowing these might help you score better on a woman you like. A great Seduction Blog can help you lure her into liking you. But keeping her is another story.

So here are some things that women surprisingly (and often secretly) like in men that could make her fall in love with you every day:

  • Ability to do house chores – a man in his jeans, shirt off at home, and personally doing the laundry, or making some scrumptious home-cooked meal for himself and his buddies, or just the least bit climb up a chair to reach the top parts of the window that needs much cleaning – now that is sexy. It makes women gush. And yes, it kinda assures us in some way that you won’t be sitting all day on your bums and leave us with all the chores.
  • Men and kids – okay, a single dad is one thing, a guy who’s great with kids is another. There’s always something blush-worthy about a man who can make a child laugh and one who can sit down with a kid for tea party or a horse, and they’re not even his kids. It sparks up the mommy in every woman and gets us feeling secure.
  • Facial hair – the right amount at the right areas of the face are something very, very masculine. I specifically requested my guy to grow the hair on his jaw line and under his chin because it highlights his square face. And I think it’s very sexy. But do remember there are boundaries between facial hair sexy and disgusting and dirty. Always keep it neat and well-kempt. Plus it all adds attitude to his look.
  • Clean toenails – there is nothing sexy about dirty toenails that’s for sure. Clean feet in general – well trimmed nails, clean soles – they are a huge turn on. It says a lot about how well you care for yourself even in areas that you don’t think are important. But please, DON’T get a pedicure!

man toes

  • Men and his shoes – no it’s not in the number or brand of shoes he wears, it’s what he actually wears. For some reason, I find shoes to be the most important part of a man’s daily wear. In fact, your shoes say a lot about you. I feel like I can tell a lot about the kind of man he is based on his shoes. You know, there are the loafers guy, the Reebok guy, the whatever-I-can-pull-out-the-closet, the leather sandals type, and the sneakers type. And no, I don’t have foot fetish.

So, tell me, have you ever thought of these things at all? Go ahead, start scrubbing your bathroom a little harder and vacuum more often and leave your stubbles at an endearing (read: neat) level. You’ll notice your ladies wanting you more than ever!

Tips On Seduction Every Man Should Know

Hi there! My friend Robb– my best gym and yoga buddy– recently asked me if can do things to my blog. I guess what he meant was he wanted to contribute to my blog, so I said okay. One of his interests as of the moment is the power of the mind when it comes to dating and relationships. It’s always nice to hear how dating works from a man’s viewpoint. I probably will have mixed reactions concerning this entry, but if ever, please address your hate mails to Robb and not to me. I look forward to your reactions and responses!

Hello, it’s Robb. Please take a moment in trying to listen to what I have to say.

Rob, a seducer expert!

In my experience, there are some common misconceptions about dating that every guy has - and it is of no surprise that many guys fail at dating and seducing women simply because they have got misguided notions about how relationships work. So in this blog post I am going to share my experiences in seduction lairs “sarging” women on a large scale for the past ten years or so.

Seduction – The Salient Points

First of all, most guys think that dating and seduction is hard. This is hogwash. Most dating gurus want you to believe that learning how to impress women and get them to fall in love with you is a hard thing to do. Well, these dating gurus make money by selling you dating advice. So, is it a wonder if they want to make you believe that dating is hard so that they make lots of money off guys who are desperate to make women like them?

Secondly, lost “seduction programs” that you see online are, well, for a lack of a better term, bullshit. Well, there are quality programs from established dating and love gurus such as Neil Strauss, Rahul Fatty Asthana and Derek Rake, but I would say that most dating programs and ebooks that you will find online are written simply to make money. Lots of the stuff are rehashed bullshit with no new ideas to offer. If you want good, cutting edge stuff on dating and seducing women then read this.

Thirdly, remember that being “natural” is overrated. You can fake your way to success – that’s for sure. Don’t think that most guys who are good with women are like that since they were young. They needed to work on their dating skills just like everyone else. If you are just getting started in dating women, go download some dating programs online and start to master one technique or two. Then, go out there and approach as many females as you can in a day – everywhere (grocery stores, the local Blockbuster store, clubs, bars, colleges). You can only do well if you practice.

Finally, once you have gotten a girlfriend, then be loyal to her. Once you have acquired the skills to seduce any woman you want and make her like you, you might feel tempted to misuse your “powers” and go out there to seduce women everywhere you see. I know for a fact that guys who built their skills using “fractionation seduction” techniques are usually more amorous. Resist this temptation, and once you have gotten a girlfriend then do all you can to make her happy… and then you can forget about all this seduction gibberish which is polluting the Internet nowadays. :)

However, if you are still new, then check out the usage of hypnosis in dating and seduction. Fractionation is a technique which is used to make a woman fall in love in as little as 14 minutes from start till finish. These methods on how to seduce women is super powerful, and it exploits a known loophole inside female psychology to make her like you almost instantly. It’s a tall order, but many guys have reported success with the fractionation tactic. If you need to find out more about this technique, search online for the term, and don’t confuse it with a certain chemical process.

I’ve always given Joyce some advice so she can put it on her blog, you’ll never know when it’ll come handy for you girls. Seduction is a two-way street– it takes two to play it, so I guess you have to learn how to play the part, too!

Email me your reactions at robbinotrabbi@brainwavechick.com (thanks Joyce for giving me a personal email!)